I’m 40, married, and occasionally watch porn. My husband knows. We have a good sex life, and I’m pretty sure my occasional viewing doesn’t bother him. Still, I’m curious how other married men would feel about it.
I often see women talking about their husbands watching porn. Sometimes the concern is excessive use or paying for content on sites like OnlyFans. I understand those are more specific situations than simply watching something now and then.
But I’ve also heard women say they feel hurt even when it happens infrequently and their sex life is relatively good. The question seems to be: why am I not enough?
I don’t tend to feel that way about my husband watching, as long as it isn’t excessive. His occasional interest doesn’t automatically feel like a judgment about me or what we have together. I wonder whether men generally see their wives’ viewing the same way, or whether I just hear less about it.
My own tastes are very soft and gentle, which is somehow still embarrassing to admit in detail. He knows I watch. Showing him exactly what I choose would make me much more bashful. Apparently, I’m comfortable acknowledging the general category and considerably less comfortable presenting the selections.
As far as I know, this isn’t a source of tension between us. I’m not asking because he’s complained or because something has gone wrong. It’s a question that comes up when I notice how often I hear one side of this conversation and how rarely I hear the other.
So, married men: if you found your wife watching porn occasionally, would you feel hurt or insulted? Would it make you wonder whether she was satisfied with you, even if your sex life was good? Or would it just be something she sometimes watches?
