I’ve been with my boyfriend for two months, which sounds very different from how it feels. Written down, it seems like hardly any time. Being with him, I feel as though I’ve known him forever.
He’s kind and caring, and I’m very attracted to him. I feel comfortable with him. He’s always respectful, and I don’t feel pushed toward anything. We both want to have sex; that part isn’t a mystery.
We’ve been holding off because I don’t want to rush the relationship. Except, if I’m honest, we’ve already moved quickly emotionally. The closeness is there, and it feels natural. I’m trying to understand whether taking this next step would be rushing, or simply following something we both already feel.
I’m 18, and he’s 20. I know two months doesn’t give us a long history together, however familiar he feels to me. There’s still plenty we haven’t had time to learn about each other. That’s the part that makes me pause, even when everything between us feels right.
My first instinct is that, yes, having sex too soon could jeopardize a relationship. But when I try to explain what I mean by “too soon,” I get stuck. I don’t feel pressured or uncomfortable. Mostly, I imagine describing our timeline to someone else and hearing that we’re moving too fast.
I don’t want to ignore a concern just because I like him so much. I also don’t quite understand what waiting is supposed to change, beyond making the relationship older.
So that’s my question: when both people want it and feel comfortable, how can the timing itself hurt the relationship? What might I be overlooking while this still feels so easy?
