I want a partner who likes my pubic hair. That sounds straightforward until the responses start coming in: they don’t mind, everyone has preferences, it’s fine either way. All perfectly pleasant things to hear. None quite answers what I’m asking.
I like keeping my pubic hair. It’s my preferred way to groom, and I’d love to be with someone who finds that appealing in its own right. I often end up feeling that a partner is tolerating it to be nice, which leaves me unsure whether we actually share a preference.
One response I’ve heard amounts to this: shaved feels like a birthday treat, but of course they can’t expect that all the time. I understand the attempt to be considerate. Still, it makes the version of my body I prefer sound like the ordinary day between celebrations.
There’s a meaningful difference between acceptance and enthusiasm. Acceptance tells me I’m free to make my own choice. Enthusiasm would mean that choice happens to be something my partner enjoys too. I’m looking for that overlap.
The practical question is how to find it through ordinary dating. I don’t want to search specific forums or fetish sites just to meet someone with a compatible grooming preference. I’d rather this be one part of mutual attraction, without making it the organizing principle of the entire search.
So how do I bring it up and get an honest sense of someone’s taste? People can be polite, especially about bodies, and I don’t want to mistake reassurance for a shared preference. I’m trying to weed through the possibilities, so to speak, while leaving the actual hair alone.
