I met a man on a dating app about a week ago, and we’ve had some great conversations. I was looking forward to finding out what it would be like to talk in person. As it turns out, he already has a fairly detailed idea of how that should go.
He told me he can usually tell within 15 minutes of meeting someone whether there’s chemistry. He’d once spent a week talking to a woman and regretted it when they met and he realized he wasn’t physically attracted to her. Since we’d been talking for a week ourselves, I could see where this was headed.
His suggestion was to FaceTime and see if we were both comfortable with how the other person looked. Then we could meet briefly in person to see if there was chemistry. I appreciate knowing how much of the evening to set aside. I hadn’t expected to get the evaluation criteria in advance.
A quick video call could be fun. I’d been enjoying our conversations, and I’d like to hear how he tells a story or see whether we laugh at the same things. Now when I picture answering, I’m thinking about where to prop up my phone and whether the overhead light does anybody any favors.
I can understand wanting to spare us both an awkward evening. I’m still curious about him, and he did frame the call as something we’d both get a say in. But after all that talk about knowing in 15 minutes, I already feel like I’m waiting to hear whether I made it to the next round. Does anyone else start to feel that way when someone pitches a pre-date FaceTime as a check for physical attraction?
