My girlfriend broke up with me after 12 days. She said she never developed romantic feelings for me. I’m 24, she’s 23, and apparently we experienced those 12 days very differently.
What keeps confusing me is that she initiated so much of the relationship. I took that as interest. It seemed reasonable to believe that someone helping move a relationship forward wanted to be in it.
Then it ended, and her explanation made me reconsider what I thought had been happening.
Twelve days is short. I know that. There wasn’t a long history between us, and I’m not trying to turn it into one. But it was enough time for me to believe we were starting something. Hearing that she never developed romantic feelings left me wondering what her initiative had meant.
I can understand, at least in theory, that someone might want to try a relationship and discover the feelings aren’t there. Understanding that possibility hasn’t made this particular breakup much clearer. I’m left with her actions pointing me toward one interpretation and her explanation giving me another.
I feel led on. I also don’t know whether that feeling tells me anything certain about her intentions. She may have been figuring things out herself. I can’t fill in what she felt just because I’m hurt.
The relationship is over. She was clear about that. What I’m still trying to understand is the beginning: when she initiated so much, what was I supposed to take from it?
