I’m 26, she’s 25, and we’ve been on two dates. That’s the extent of our history so far. Now I’m wondering how to find out whether we’re looking for the same kind of relationship.
It feels like a reasonable thing to want to know, but I’m unsure how to bring it up this early. Asking what someone hopes to find through dating seems simple enough until I picture myself actually saying it.
I’m curious about what she wants in general. Is she hoping for something serious, keeping things casual, or still figuring it out? I don’t know her answer, and two dates don’t give me much to go on.
There’s also a difference between wanting the same kind of relationship and knowing whether we want it with each other. We’re still getting to know each other. I wouldn’t expect either of us to have that second answer yet.
Would a straightforward “What are you looking for right now?” feel natural after two dates? Or would she hear a bigger question than the one I’m trying to ask?
