I’m 28, I like a guy, and the feelings are mutual. You would think this would make flirting fairly straightforward. Instead, I’m wondering whether telling him he’s handsome constitutes an excessive disclosure.
We’re in the talking stage, which seems to come with a surprising amount of concern about talking. I want to compliment him. I want to be playful and let him know I find him insanely attractive. Nothing elaborate. Just a little honesty with better eye contact.
But I don’t want to say too much too soon and make things weird. There’s a gap between feeling something and deciding how freely to express it, and I appear to have set up a small administrative office in that gap.
I’m not questioning whether I like him. That part is settled. I’m wondering whether being expressive will come across as confidence or desperation, even though I know he likes me too.
So, men: when a woman you’re already interested in tells you you’re handsome and flirts with you, do you enjoy it? Or am I somehow doing too much by letting the man I like know that I like looking at him?
