I’m 22, my boyfriend is 24, and he has more sexual experience than I do. Sometimes he asks me to take the more active role in bed. I want to try, but I get tired much faster than I expect.
That’s the frustrating part. I want to make him feel good, and I like the idea of being more confident and taking the lead. My energy doesn’t seem to have received the same briefing.
When I tire out, I can’t keep going as long as I’d hoped. Neither of us reaches the finish I was aiming for, and I’m left wondering whether I’m missing something that comes more easily with experience.
I find myself wanting to ask what men generally enjoy, as though there might be a common answer I haven’t learned yet. What I’m trying to understand is how to make this feel good with my boyfriend without wearing myself out so quickly.
I don’t want my lack of experience to keep me from trying. I want to feel comfortable being the one who leads sometimes. How do I get from wanting that to feeling confident enough to enjoy it?
