As an older adult, I’m finding that I can be open to a relationship without feeling much urgency to get into one. I’m not lonely or bored. My life doesn’t feel as if it’s waiting for someone to arrive.
I’m not against a long-term, monogamous relationship, either. It’s the amount of time together that makes me wonder whether my expectations are unusual. Seeing each other once a week, give or take—or sometimes less—sounds comfortable to me.
I like the idea of companionship with a woman who also enjoys her own life. We could spend time together and still have our own friends, interests, and freedom to decide how to spend a day. I don’t feel a strong need for frequent company just because we’re dating.
Calling it “part-time dating” probably makes it sound less serious than I mean. I’m imagining something lasting, with room around it. The interest would be real even if we weren’t seeing each other several times a week.
Are there independent women who want that same rhythm? Women who would enjoy having someone in their lives without wanting our lives to overlap constantly? It sounds appealing from where I’m sitting. I’m just wondering whether anyone else is looking for it.
