I matched with a woman, we moved the conversation to Instagram, and we talked a little. So far, a perfectly respectable amount of progress for two people who had started as pictures on each other’s phones.
I asked whether she was free that weekend. She said she probably was.
That was two days ago. “Probably” seemed like enough of an opening to suggest an actual plan. It wasn’t a reservation, obviously, but I figured we were at least discussing the same weekend.
We chatted a bit more, and yesterday I sent a specific date and time. Since then, nothing.
Now I’m in that small, ridiculous stretch of early dating where there isn’t much information, but there’s apparently plenty to think about. She might be busy. She might still be deciding. She might have lost interest. The conversation hasn’t supplied a footnote.
I know she never firmly agreed to go out. Saying she was probably free wasn’t the same as accepting an invitation I hadn’t made yet. Still, the silence arrived right when I turned a vague possibility into something she could say yes or no to.
It’s only been since yesterday. Am I overthinking this, or was “probably” doing more work in that sentence than I realized?
