My boyfriend is really good in bed, and I’m a little embarrassed by how curious I am about that. It’s a lovely thing to have no complaints about. It has also left me with a question I haven’t quite figured out how to ask.
How did you get so good at this?
I know he hasn’t slept with many women. That’s what makes me curious, although I realize a short list of partners doesn’t tell me much about someone’s experiences with them. Knowing how many people he’s been with doesn’t explain how he learned what he knows.
I don’t want a detailed account of his past. I’m interested in him, and in this part of being together that feels so good. But asking where that came from seems likely to sound more investigative than I mean it to.
Even the wording is awkward. “How did you learn that?” could sound surprised. “Why are you so good?” is a compliment, but it’s also quite a question to hand someone without warning.
For now, I’m enjoying being with him and keeping the curiosity to myself. I’d still like to know his answer. I just wish the question felt as easy to say as the compliment.
