I started a new job a few months ago, and somewhere around then I matched with a woman on Hinge who had the same job as me. She was pretty much exactly my type. Brunette, blue eyes, a couple of years younger. Before either of us said a word, she unmatched me. My guess is she figured out we were going to work together. She’s had plenty of chances to tell me, and we’ve both had the good sense to say absolutely nothing about it.
We don’t work directly together, but we do see each other around the office. She usually says hey, and sometimes she makes a little joke. I say hey back and do my best impression of a person who has never thought about any of this outside office hours. So far, I think I’ve been convincing.
The other day I needed to ask her something about a few products. It was an actual work question, which was convenient because I knew how to start that conversation. Then we looked each other in the eye for a few seconds. A few seconds can feel surprisingly long when you’ve finished asking about products. I felt something in that pause. What she felt is anybody’s guess.
I’ve dated other women since the match, and I still look forward to running into her. I also know about as much about her as you’d expect from the occasional hello. I think she’s single, but I don’t know that either. The one thing I do know is that I don’t want to hit on her at work.
Maybe we’ll end up at the same work social someday and have a conversation that lasts longer than a walk down the hall. Until then, I’ll say hey when I see her and get on with my day. I’d absolutely go out with her if it ever came up. Leaving it alone for now is probably the move, right?
