I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for about five months. She and her ex broke up a year and a half ago, and she still has quite a bit of stuff at his place. He lives in another city, so I can see how picking everything up could turn into one of those errands you keep putting off.
Her cat lives there, too. That’s the part I keep coming back to. I can imagine getting used to doing without things you left behind. With a cat, someone’s still putting food in the bowl every morning. There could be a perfectly ordinary reason it makes sense for the cat to stay there, and I’d like to hear what it is.
Five months in, I’m still getting to know her, including how she feels about a relationship that ended well before ours started. I wonder if she’s completely moved on. I also know I’m trying to read quite a bit into where her things are and who feeds her cat.
Would you start by asking whether she plans to bring the cat home, or would you tell her right away what’s been on your mind?
