My ex recently followed me again on Instagram, out of the blue. Normally, a follow would be a fairly small piece of news. Unfortunately, this one arrived with a little history attached.
In the past, he made it clear that he didn’t want to reconnect. I understood that. It was a definite position, expressed by the person best qualified to report on whether he wanted to speak to me.
Now he’s followed me again, and I’m trying to work out whether that position has changed or whether his thumb simply had a spare moment.
Is he testing the waters? Is following me a way to make himself visible without having to actually say anything? Or does it mean so little to him that he’d be surprised to learn there was a question?
That’s the trouble with this particular form of contact. It’s enough to notice, but it comes with no explanation. Instagram supplies the action and leaves the interpretation as an unpaid assignment.
I don’t know whether there’s any intention behind it. His earlier words were clear; this is considerably less informative. So I’m curious why men do this. When you follow an ex again after saying you don’t want to reconnect, are you opening a door—or did you just want to see the posts?
