I’ve been sleeping with the same guy for a year, and I think the sex is amazing. I’ve told him that. He’s described it as unbelievable between us, too, which is why the last couple of times have left me unsure where I stand.
Lately, he seems more concerned about whether I finish. He’s commented on my body not seeming ready and said he wants me to have an orgasm. I can understand wanting that for me. What I can’t work out is whether he’s becoming disappointed when it doesn’t happen.
The last time, he told me to relax. I had to leave for work, so I wasn’t as relaxed as I might have been with nowhere else to go. Being in bed with him and knowing I needed to get moving were both happening at once.
He said he’d finished last time, so now it was my turn. I ended up helping him finish instead. Since then, I’ve been wondering what he took from that moment.
Most of the time we’ve been together, I haven’t had an orgasm. That hasn’t stopped me from enjoying being with him, and I’ve tried to make that clear. Until these recent comments, I didn’t realize it might be becoming a bigger issue for him.
I don’t want to assume that his wanting me to finish means he’s losing interest. Those could be very different things. But because he’s brought it up more than once lately, I keep wondering whether my reassurance is reaching him.
Nothing about my enjoyment has changed. What’s changed is that I’m now worried he might stop wanting something we’ve both said is so good. If I’m happy with our sex life and still struggle to finish, could that be enough to put him off continuing?
