I’ve been on two dates with a guy I actually like, which is a pleasant development complicated by the fact that I apparently work at our communications desk.
We’re both 28. The dates were good, the chemistry was there, and he seemed interested. When I text him, he’s happy to talk. He often suggests getting together, so this isn’t a case of me sending cheerful messages into an abandoned building. There is someone in there. He even wants to make plans.
He just doesn’t seem inclined to open the conversation himself.
Normally, another date would be a useful way to sort this out. Unfortunately, I’ve been moving and trying to fix my sleep schedule, two activities that make being available and charming more of an aspiration. A few times, he’s suggested meeting and I haven’t been able to.
The last time I reached out, he immediately wanted to see me. I explained the sleep situation. He wished me good night and told me to keep him updated. A perfectly reasonable exchange, right up until it became our most recent exchange.
Since then, nothing. No asking how the move is going. No casual check-in. I’m not expecting him to supervise my bedtime or provide daily coverage of my activities. After two dates, even a small sign of curiosity would be nice.
The inconvenient part is that I can see his side. I said I was busy. I turned down opportunities to meet. He told me to let him know. Maybe he thinks he’s giving me space, and I’m over here getting annoyed at a man for following the instructions I accidentally supplied.
Still, I’m tired of being the one who gets us talking. His enthusiasm once I text makes the silence harder to interpret, not easier. I want to feel that he’s interested in knowing me between dates, too.
So now I’m debating whether to reach out again. Would that clear up a perfectly ordinary misunderstanding—or simply renew my position at the communications desk?
