I like a woman at college. We talk in the group chat, and we talk when everyone is together. We’ve established that we can communicate successfully with witnesses.
What we haven’t done is talk privately. No direct messages, no conversation with just the two of us. That feels like a fairly large missing piece when I’m wondering whether this could go anywhere.
In a group, there’s always something to respond to. Someone else starts a topic, and I can join in without having to announce my arrival quite so clearly. Sending her a message myself would require the bold administrative step of selecting her name.
I keep thinking that talking more might help something develop. But so far, I haven’t given us much room to get to know each other beyond the group. I like her; I don’t know whether she has any interest in me that way.
So I’m trying to figure out how to begin a normal, private conversation. Nothing dramatic. Ideally, a message that doesn’t sound as though I’ve spent this much time thinking about sending it.
