I’m curious how often women actually approach a man they’re interested in. Is it something you do regularly, something you’ve done once or twice, or something you consider briefly before continuing with your day?
And what makes you decide to do it? I’m interested in the point where noticing someone becomes walking over and saying hello. There must be a fairly substantial gap between those two activities, given that one can be accomplished without moving.
Does it depend mostly on the man, the setting, or how you’re feeling that day? Would you approach someone simply because you find him attractive, or would you want some sign that a conversation would be welcome first?
I also wonder what counts as approaching. A direct introduction seems clear enough. Starting a casual conversation might feel less like making a move, even if that’s exactly why you started it. The person on the receiving end may remain impressively unaware.
I’m not expecting every woman to have the same answer. I’d just like to hear from the women who have done it—or thought about it and decided against it. How often do you make the first move, and what gets you from “he’s cute” to “I’m going over there”?
