After seven years single, I met someone at my best friend’s wedding. I’m 34, he’s 32, and we were paired up to walk together in the wedding party. For once, the seating and walking arrangements seemed to be doing me a personal favor.
Technically, my friend had tried this two years earlier. I hadn’t been interested then, although she’d shown him my pictures and he’d thought I was attractive. Apparently, her introduction needed a longer processing time.
At the rehearsal, he asked me lots of questions. When we lined up for the wedding, he was chatty and complimentary. I felt chemistry, and he seemed to be making a real effort to get to know me.
During the reception, I was dancing with my friends when he pulled me away to dance and talk with him. We had fun. Later, he asked me to take pictures in the photo booth, pulled me close, and we kissed. It felt mutual, exciting, and considerably more promising than my usual wedding attendance.
We spent a little more time together before returning to our separate groups. At the final wedding event the next day, we talked again for about an hour. One of his female friends also volunteered that he was kind and had a great heart. I hadn’t even requested references.
We exchanged numbers. After I got home, I texted first.
His replies have been very slow.
We live in different cities, and this is obviously early. I don’t know whether he’s busy, doubtful about the distance, or perfectly happy to leave what happened inside one fun weekend. In person, I never had to wonder whether he wanted my attention. Now I’m wondering how much to read into the wait between messages.
I haven’t dated many men, and I’ve spent months talking to some who never intended to build anything serious. I’m dating with the hope of eventually getting married. I’m hardly asking a photo booth to serve as an engagement announcement, but I’d like to know whether there’s something here to explore.
Do I give him time to find a rhythm now that we’re home, or take the slow replies as my answer? We managed an hour of conversation the day after the wedding. I’d like to know whether there’s another one coming.
