Last night we were in bed when she borrowed my phone for something. While she had it, a Tinder notification popped up to tell me my profile had been hidden because I hadn’t used it in so long. Apparently Tinder goes to the trouble of telling you when you’re ignoring it. It picked a hell of a time.
I’m 25, she’s 21, and we’ve been seeing each other for a month. We’ve hung out about ten times. I’ve been on a lot of dates, but I have way less experience with the part where you figure out what you are to each other. Up until my phone weighed in, I thought things were going pretty well.
She was upset that I still had Tinder on my phone. I told her I had no reason to keep it and that there was a reason my profile had gone inactive in the first place. She was the only person I wanted to see. I figured there was a straightforward way to clear this up, so I asked if she wanted to be my girlfriend.
She said she’d like to eventually, but she didn’t think a month was long enough to know. Which is fair. A month goes fast, even when you manage to see each other ten times. I hadn’t been sitting there waiting to ask her, either. I asked because I wanted her to know I was taking her seriously.
It only started to bother me afterward. I’m fine giving her more time, and I could delete Tinder and go another month without thinking about it. I just left that conversation feeling like there was already a rule I was supposed to know about. Maybe she was telling me how she felt and I heard something more. Am I overthinking this, or would that conversation have left you a little confused too?
