I wanted to know the strangest thing people had been red-flagged for. Something they’d never expected to count as a dating deal breaker. The sort of thing you mention casually, only to discover you’ve apparently disqualified yourself.
To get the conversation going, I shared an example involving an allergy. It was outside my control, which seemed relevant to the question. I thought it would break the ice.
The ice took it personally.
Some of the replies were so nasty that I ended up adding an edit. Apparently, mentioning that someone had treated my allergy as a red flag had upset people who weren’t even being asked to date me. They had volunteered for this inconvenience.
I hadn’t claimed everybody had to accept every possible limitation. I’d asked for surprising examples and supplied one. There seemed to be plenty of room in that arrangement for someone else to tell a story.
Instead, judging by some of the comments, I might have received a warmer reception if I’d announced I was a gold-digging narcissist. At least those sound like qualities someone could confidently tell me to work on.
I’d honestly forgotten how unpleasant people online could be over a small piece of information. One minute I was opening a conversation; the next, I was explaining that my icebreaker had not been intended as a personal attack.
Anyway, the question is still there, slightly dented: what’s the strangest thing you’ve been red-flagged for?
