She turned me down, but she keeps messaging me. That’s the part I don’t know what to do with.
The rejection gave me an answer. It wasn’t the answer I wanted, but I understood it. Then the messages kept coming, and now I’m trying to figure out what place this ongoing conversation has in my life.
I know someone can enjoy talking to me without wanting to date me. Her reaching out doesn’t erase what she said, and I don’t want to treat every message as a secret announcement that she has changed her mind. That would be a lot of responsibility to put on a notification.
Still, there’s a difference between understanding that in principle and being the person receiving the messages. I’m interested in her. That makes it harder to take the contact as casually as I might otherwise.
I don’t know whether she sees this as an ordinary friendship, assumes we’re comfortable with where things stand, or has some other reason for keeping in touch. All I actually know is that she rejected me and continues to message me.
So what am I supposed to make of that? How do I keep talking to someone I like without quietly waiting for her answer to become a different one?
