My partner and I agreed we’d take turns choosing what to watch on our weekly movie nights. A simple arrangement. Two people, one movie, a rotating selection process. Nothing that should require an outside auditor.
Lately, though, it feels like the last three picks have happened without much interest in what I wanted to see. I haven’t been keeping an official record, but three is enough to notice a pattern. It’s also enough movies to make me wonder whether my turn has been delayed by production issues.
This weekend, I suggested something different. The suggestion got brushed off, and I let it go at the time. I didn’t push for my choice or point out the agreement. The moment passed, which would have been convenient if my irritation had passed along with it.
We usually get along really well. That’s part of why I hesitated. Starting an argument over a movie sounds ridiculous when I put it that way. I can practically hear myself explaining that the relationship crisis concerns an evening’s entertainment.
Still, I wasn’t asking to choose every movie. I was trying to take the turn we’d already agreed I would get. There’s a fairly manageable amount of ambition involved.
Now I’m wondering whether I should have said something when my suggestion was dismissed. I don’t want our nice weekly routine to become an argument. I would, however, like to occasionally participate in choosing the film.
Am I making too much of this, or is it reasonable to ask when my turn starts?
