How do I know whether a woman is actually into me or just playing with my feelings? It’s an uncomfortable question because I’m hoping for one answer and already bracing for the other.
If I’m interested in her, of course I want her interest to be real. I want to feel that I can take it seriously without later discovering I gave it more meaning than she did.
But even the way I ask the question leaves something out. A woman could be unsure. She could like me without wanting the same thing I want. Neither possibility would feel especially good, but being disappointed wouldn’t automatically mean I’d been deliberately misled.
That’s the part I’m trying to sort out. I don’t want my hopes doing all the interpreting, and I don’t want suspicion taking over, either. What would actually help me recognize genuine interest—and what would give me a real reason to doubt it?
