Do you regret getting married? I’m interested in the answer that comes after the polite pause. Would you choose the same person again? Would you choose marriage at all?
There’s a lot tucked into that question. Someone might wish they’d waited without wishing they’d married someone else. Someone else might have loved the wedding and struggled with almost everything that followed. I wouldn’t want to assume those are the same kind of regret.
If you could go back, what would you actually change? Would you have a conversation you kept putting off? Take more time before making plans? Pay closer attention to something that seemed small then? Or would you go ahead exactly as you did, knowing the difficult parts were coming?
I’m just as curious about people who would do it again. What makes that answer easy—or makes it worth arriving at after some hesitation? Is there something about your marriage that you couldn’t have understood before you were living it?
And if your answer has changed over the years, I’d like to hear that, too. A yes or no can leave out a whole stretch of life. When you picture having the choice again, what do you find yourself wanting to do?
