When I asked the guy I’ve been flirting with about his girlfriend, he said he’d tell me when we met in person. We go to the same college. Somehow, since he said that, we still haven’t met up. The question is right where I left it, and the messages are still fun enough that I keep answering them.
I’m 23 and he’s 24. He first messaged me about two months ago. We weren’t friends before that, and at first we just talked every now and then. Lately, the conversations have gotten flirtier. I like that he flirts with me, and I like flirting back. It would be easier to shrug off the whole thing if I were a little less excited to hear from him.
I’d already heard he had a reputation for chasing women. There was a rumor that he was dating two girls in his class, which I have no way of knowing is true. Then there’s the woman I actually knew as his girlfriend, or as close to his official girlfriend as I could tell. She’s the person I asked him about. I thought I’d get something simple back, like that they were still together or that they’d broken up. Instead, I got an answer I have to be in the same room to hear.
My last boyfriend cheated on me, and I can feel how much that affects the way I read this guy’s messages. When we’re joking around, I’m having a good time. When I put my phone down, I remember that I still don’t know whether someone else thinks she’s his girlfriend. That’s a pretty basic thing to be wondering about someone I’m starting to like.
I could wait until we see each other and bring up what I’ve heard, although I’d still want him to answer the question I already asked. I could also stop encouraging the flirting while I’m waiting. I’d like to give him a chance, but how much of a chance makes sense when I still can’t get a straight answer about whether he’s single?
