I needed a day to explain why I was crying. My boyfriend called that a breach of trust, and our next calls ended the relationship.
Relationships & Desire
Crushes, mixed signals, dating, and life as a couple. Stories about who we want, what happens when we get together, and how desire changes over time.
I Have a Crush on My Neighbor. We’ve Never Even Said Hello
He lives across the driveway, but we’ve never spoken. Now I have a crush—and I’m debating whether a wave or a friend request would be less awkward.
My Wife Wants to Stay Married, but Says She No Longer Desires Me
She says I’m a good partner and father, and wants to stay married. I’m struggling to understand where that leaves us after her attraction has faded.
A Month Later, the Date I’d Written Off Texted Me Again
After two dates and a month of silence, I’d assumed she wasn’t interested. Then she got back in touch with a question I hadn’t expected.
The Men I Only Wanted for Sex Look Different in My Old Journals
At 29, old journal entries have me reconsidering men who wanted relationships when I only wanted sex. But I don’t know how they’d remember me.
She Sent Me a Disappearing Photo. Was Our Friendship Becoming Friends With Benefits?
A friend’s one-view photo was supposed to show a hickey. He wondered whether it also meant their friendship was becoming sexual.
A Phone Call Before Our First Date Was His Red Flag
The messages were warm until I asked for a phone call before meeting. He called the request a red flag, then wished me luck.
My Husband Lost Desire After Marriage. Is He Hiding Porn?
After five passionate years of long-distance dating, living together brought less affection—and an old conversation raised a question.
He Invited Me to Stay Over. Does He Think I Agreed to Sex?
He offered a place to stay and a night out dancing. I liked both ideas—until I wondered whether my yes had sounded bigger than I meant.
She Wants Me to Leave the Pub Quiz Where We Met
A month into dating, she wants a social space of her own. The trouble is, it’s the pub quiz I’ve attended with my friends for almost three years.
My Ex’s Girlfriend Sent Me a Thank-You DM. I Have Questions.
Years after our breakup, my ex’s girlfriend sent a warm, bewildering DM—and suggested the three of us catch up.
My Girlfriend Asked What I’d Do If She Slept With Her Old FWB
Her old FWB is still a close friend. I asked for reassurance, but our conversation left me questioning the visit I have planned.