At 45, a few years after her divorce, she is thinking about dating again. The complication is not what to wear or where to go. It is the small, old rental she lives in: dated interiors, grayish walls, and little room to make substantial changes. She keeps it clean and…
Bedroom Talk
Clear answers, sexual curiosity, and room to ask the questions adults rarely ask at the dinner table.
We Still Have Sex. I Miss Being Kissed.
She remembered a time when kissing him had been easy. They had dated for three years before spending four more apart, in a long-distance relationship. There had been making out, playful sex, the feeling that wanting each other did not need much explaining. During the years apart, he became a…
Why Does He Produce So Much Pre-Cum? What the Amount Can Tell You
Some men notice a little clear fluid during arousal; others notice enough to wonder whether something unusual is happening. More fluid does not give…
Why Does Ejaculation Happen in Pulses?
Ejaculation often comes in a series of pulses rather than one continuous flow. That rhythm is part of the body’s mechanism for moving semen, not a…
Oral Sex: Communication, Comfort, and Finding What Works Together
A satisfying blowjob does not depend on reproducing a sequence from a video. The useful starting point is much less elaborate: two adults who want to…
Finishing Inside or Outside the Mouth: A Question of Preference
There is no universal answer to which feels best. One partner may have a strong preference; the other may have a different one. A good ending is one…
Deep Throat and the Gag Reflex: Comfort Is Not a Test
Depth is optional. You do not need to suppress a reflex, endure discomfort, or prove enthusiasm to make oral sex worthwhile. A partner who enjoys a…
Lubricant for Oral Sex: Read the Label, Skip the Hype
Lubricant may be useful when a couple wants less friction, but the right product depends on how it will be used. “Flavored,” “natural,” and “premium”…
Semen Volume: Why the Amount Varies
An amount of semen that looks large to one partner may look ordinary to another. That visual impression is a poor way to judge fertility, pleasure, or…
Swallowing Pre-Cum: What Matters About STI Risk
Pre-ejaculate can come into contact with the mouth during oral sex. The useful health question is not simply whether it is swallowed; it is what…
BDSM Quizzes: A Conversation Starter, Not an Identity Test
A BDSM quiz can give you words for an interest you have not quite named. It cannot tell you what you must try, whom you should trust, or which label…
BBW, Attraction, and the Person Beyond the Label
BBW usually means “big beautiful woman.” Some women enjoy the phrase; others find it reductive or dislike being addressed with a category borrowed from…