A fantasy is a better subject for a conversation than a surprise reconstruction. Even when you think you know what your partner likes, the missing…
Bedroom Talk
Sex, desire, and the things partners don’t always know how to say. Candid stories about making a move, trying something new, and wanting different things in bed.
Bedroom Talk
Want to Kiss Him? Make the Interest Clear
You can make an invitation appealing; you cannot make another person want to kiss you. Fortunately, the first task is simpler, and it leaves both…
Bedroom Talk
Can a Doctor Tell Whether You’ve Had Sex?
A genital examination cannot reliably establish a person’s sexual history. In particular, the appearance of the hymen cannot prove whether someone has…
Bedroom Talk
What Does “Outie” Mean When People Talk About the Vulva?
“Outie” is an informal term often used when the inner labia extend beyond the outer labia. It is not a medical diagnosis, a statement about sexual…
Bedroom Talk
Unwanted Attention Is Not a Failure of Confidence
Repeated unwanted attention can leave someone wondering what she is doing to invite it. The responsibility belongs with the person who ignores a limit…
Bedroom Talk
When Is the Right Time for Intimacy in a New Relationship?
There is no number of dates that guarantees a good decision. Waiting can suit one couple; becoming intimate earlier can suit another. What matters is…
Bedroom Talk
When Sex Is All About Your Partner, How Do You Speak Up?
It is possible to have an active sex life and still feel overlooked. The issue may be whose preferences set the pattern, who is expected to adapt, or…
Bedroom Talk
When Your Sexual Preferences Change in a Long Relationship
Knowing a partner well is useful until it becomes a reason to stop asking. A preference that suited you years ago may still fit, may have changed, or…