There is no universal answer to which feels best. One partner may have a strong preference; the other may have a different one. A good ending is one…
Bedroom Talk
Sex, desire, and the things partners don’t always know how to say. Candid stories about making a move, trying something new, and wanting different things in bed.
Bedroom Talk
Deep Throat and the Gag Reflex: Comfort Is Not a Test
Depth is optional. You do not need to suppress a reflex, endure discomfort, or prove enthusiasm to make oral sex worthwhile. A partner who enjoys a…
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Lubricant for Oral Sex: Read the Label, Skip the Hype
Lubricant may be useful when a couple wants less friction, but the right product depends on how it will be used. “Flavored,” “natural,” and “premium”…
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Semen Volume: Why the Amount Varies
An amount of semen that looks large to one partner may look ordinary to another. That visual impression is a poor way to judge fertility, pleasure, or…
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Swallowing Pre-Cum: What Matters About STI Risk
Pre-ejaculate can come into contact with the mouth during oral sex. The useful health question is not simply whether it is swallowed; it is what…
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BDSM Quizzes: A Conversation Starter, Not an Identity Test
A BDSM quiz can give you words for an interest you have not quite named. It cannot tell you what you must try, whom you should trust, or which label…
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BBW, Attraction, and the Person Beyond the Label
BBW usually means “big beautiful woman.” Some women enjoy the phrase; others find it reductive or dislike being addressed with a category borrowed from…
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Exploring Kink: Start With a Conversation You Can Both Finish
An unfamiliar interest can be intriguing without becoming a project you must complete. Exploring it starts with explaining what appeals to you and…
Bedroom Talk
What Is a Rainbow Kiss? Meaning Without the Hype
“Rainbow kiss” is adult slang commonly used for kissing after oral sexual contact involving menstrual blood and semen. Usage can vary. The term names…
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Why Does Sex Matter So Much—and Why Does It Vary?
Sex can mean pleasure, closeness, play, reassurance, or a welcome interruption to a week spent discussing errands. It can also matter less to one…
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When a Kink Community Stops Listening to Your Limits
A group can describe itself as open-minded and still make it difficult to say no. The contradiction is worth noticing: a community’s vocabulary does…
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What Is a Snowball Kiss? A Plain Explanation
In adult slang, a “snowball kiss” usually means passing semen from one person’s mouth to another’s during a kiss. That is the definition. The name does…