I’m 30, and I was talking to two guys online. I was getting along with both of them, and I would’ve been happy to meet either one. Then, on the same day, I tried to make plans with each of them. I had no idea I’d be spending that much time discussing my calendar.
The first guy and I compared schedules for the week. I could do three days, and he could do the other two. I suggested we try another week. He asked if I could meet on the second of his two days. I said I couldn’t. He came back with a different time on the exact same day. I checked the message I’d sent him. It still said I couldn’t do that day.
The second guy could only meet on weekday afternoons. I could do evenings and weekends. I said I didn’t think we’d be able to find a time. He asked where I lived. I asked why it mattered, and he asked if I could do a weekday afternoon. I said I couldn’t.
Then he asked where I worked. I asked why that mattered, and he suggested lunch on a weekday. I couldn’t do that either. By then I half expected him to ask what time I usually walked to the parking lot.
Stuff comes up. If either guy had said, “How about next week?” I’d have been happy to check. What threw me was how quickly “I can’t” turned into another round of questions about the same hours. By the end of the day I’d turned down the same date twice and the same part of the workweek in two different forms. Is this a normal amount of persistence now, or did I just happen to get both of these conversations on the same day?
