I’m a 22-year-old Indian man, and I’ve never told a woman I’m interested in her. I want a girlfriend, but I have questions about the part that comes before a relationship: approaching someone, saying something, and finding out whether the interest is mutual.
It sounds like one question—how do I get a girlfriend?—until I try to break it down. How do I start a conversation? How do I make my interest clear? And how do I handle it if she says no?
I’ve never made that first approach, so I don’t have an experience to compare it with. Even the words feel unfamiliar. What do I actually say when I want to ask someone out?
Then there’s the possibility that she’s a classmate. That adds a practical complication. If I approach someone I’ll keep seeing in class, the conversation doesn’t necessarily end when we walk away from it.
I’m wondering about rejection itself, but also about afterward: being in the same room, speaking again, and knowing whether things will feel awkward.
I’m still at the beginning of all this. Before there can be a girlfriend, there has to be a first conversation—and I’m trying to picture how to begin it.
