I’m 23, and I’ve been on two dates with a 21-year-old woman I met on Bumble. Neither date was exactly a triumph, but we’re still chatting, and our third date is today. Apparently, we’ve both seen enough to commission another installment.
She’s more serious than flirty, which makes it hard for me to read how things are going. From the way she talks and behaves, I’ve started wondering whether some of this might be new to her. That’s an impression, though. We haven’t talked about our past relationships or dating experience.
I wanted to take things slowly and give her space, so the only kiss so far has been on the cheek. I like her, and I’d like us to get a little closer. I just don’t know whether I’m picking up on inexperience, a reserved personality, or the ordinary awkwardness of two people who met on an app.
The encouraging part is that we keep talking and agreeing to see each other. The less helpful part is that neither of us seems to be supplying much in the way of subtitles.
I’m considering asking her directly about her experience. It might help me understand her better, but it could also make a third date feel unexpectedly like an intake appointment. We haven’t even covered our pasts casually yet.
So that’s the question before today’s date: would asking make it easier for us to talk about getting closer, or would I just be putting her on the spot about something I’ve only guessed?
