I recently started a long-distance dominant/submissive relationship, and my partner is a huge brat. I mean that affectionately. The mischief is part of the appeal. I like the challenge, the attitude, the general suggestion that any perfectly reasonable instruction might be eligible for appeal.
Unfortunately, enjoying a brat and knowing what to do with one are separate qualifications. I appear to have obtained the first without checking the requirements for the second.
Distance makes the gap in my résumé more noticeable. I’m trying to come up with a session that works while we’re apart, and my imagination hasn’t exactly arrived with a clipboard full of options. I want something playful that gives us both a chance to enjoy the dynamic we’ve started.
We’d prefer to keep it nonsexual. We’re open to a pretty broad range of ideas, but that preference matters. The attraction here is the back-and-forth: my partner being deliberately difficult within something we both enjoy, and me having a response beyond appreciating the effort.
The practical part is what keeps stopping me. What can we actually do from a distance? How do we agree on something with enough structure that it feels like a session? And how does following through work when I’m not there? An instruction is easy enough to send. Giving it some weight requires more imagination than I currently seem to possess.
So that’s where I am: delighted with my partner, short on material, and looking for nonsexual ideas that can survive long distance. The brat position has been filled with considerable enthusiasm. The planning department could use assistance.
