I have a question for people who cheated, stopped, and never got caught. How long did it go on before you ended it? When I try to picture that decision, I keep wondering whether there was one moment you can point to or whether you only realized later that the last time had been the last time.
I’m curious about the beginning, too. What made you do it? I wonder how close the reason you gave yourself then is to the one you’d give today, if somebody asked and you felt like answering honestly.
And when it was over, what did you feel first? Relief seems possible. So does missing it, or feeling guilty and still going about your day as usual. I’d want to know whether that first feeling lasted. When nobody found out, what finally made you stop, and what was it like to live with the secret afterward?
