I’d been seeing this guy for about three months when I finally asked him about something I’d noticed in bed. When he finished, he was completely quiet. I’d been with five or six men before him, and every one of them made some kind of sound. I’d gotten used to hearing it. The first time with him, the silence caught me by surprise.
I asked him if he felt uncomfortable making noise. It was a slightly awkward question to say out loud. I’d been wondering what the silence meant for long enough that I half expected him to have an explanation ready.
He said he’d just always been quiet. Then he told me he’d actually asked his friends about it at some point, and they all said they were quiet, too. I don’t know how that conversation came up, but I love that he could ask around and get a unanimous answer when I’d have gotten the exact opposite from the men I’d been with.
His answer settled what I’d been wondering about him. Now I’m curious about everybody else. If you’re usually quiet when you finish, is it because you feel a little shy about making noise, or does it just never occur to you? And how did I make it through five or six guys before I met one who didn’t make a peep?
