Some people have a strong height preference. Others barely think about it until a profile asks. Attraction is personal, but the way a preference is…
Playful Escapades
My Girlfriend Was Getting Attention. I Was Providing Commentary.
My girlfriend, Megan, is striking. I knew this when I asked her out. Somehow, I was still surprised to discover that other people had functioning eyesight.
Relationships & Desire
We Scheduled Sex. By 1:30 a.m., We Were Both Resentful.
After years of difficulty around sex, my wife and I agreed to make time on Saturday evening. I felt hopeful. When Saturday came, she was tired and…
Playful Escapades
She Hasn’t Had Sex in a While. Reality TV Makes It a Crisis.
“It’s been a while,” a woman says on a reality dating show.
Bedroom Talk
When Is the Right Time for Intimacy in a New Relationship?
There is no number of dates that guarantees a good decision. Waiting can suit one couple; becoming intimate earlier can suit another. What matters is…
Bedroom Talk
When Sex Is All About Your Partner, How Do You Speak Up?
It is possible to have an active sex life and still feel overlooked. The issue may be whose preferences set the pattern, who is expected to adapt, or…
Playful Escapades
I Returned to Dating at 45. My Expectations Were Still 30.
After a decade-long relationship, I returned to dating at forty-five and discovered that the other people had been aging while I was busy. This struck…
Confessions & Secrets
“You’re My Person” Was Not an Agreement About Exclusivity
He was in his early thirties. She had recently left an eighteen-year relationship. Within weeks of meeting, she was telling him, “You’re my person,”…
Playful Escapades
The Handbag Was Expensive. My Explanation Was Getting More Elaborate.
I bought a Chanel bag and told my husband it had cost two hundred dollars at a thrift shop. The bag was beautifully made. The explanation had several…
Bedroom Talk
When Your Sexual Preferences Change in a Long Relationship
Knowing a partner well is useful until it becomes a reason to stop asking. A preference that suited you years ago may still fit, may have changed, or…
Playful Escapades
My Ex Returned. I Did Not Have a Speech Prepared.
After a year without contact, my ex, Chris, asked to meet for coffee. I agreed, then spent an unreasonable amount of time deciding what a woman who had…
Playful Escapades
She Packed the Lingerie. I Wrote the Rest of the Itinerary.
When Claire put the little white lingerie bag in her suitcase, I immediately revised my expectations for our business trip. Until then, the itinerary…