I thought my roommate might like me back. Then a mutual friend told her how I felt, and our friendship became something neither of us knew how to handle.
Relationships & Desire
Crushes, mixed signals, dating, and life as a couple. Stories about who we want, what happens when we get together, and how desire changes over time.
I Want to Marry Him. Why Does “Wife” Feel So Wrong?
I love my partner and want to be legally his family. But the word “wife” carries expectations I cannot quite make my own.
I Booked Flights to See Her Before Learning She’d Slept With Someone
We reconciled after four weeks apart, and I booked a trip to Malaysia. Then she told me she’d slept with someone during the breakup.
I Agreed to a Friends-Only Vacation With the Woman I Love
Jane says we are just friends. I agreed to separate rooms and a vacation together, even though I am still in love with her.
After We Slept Together, He Joked About Finding a Girlfriend
After sex with a close friend, his joke about finding a girlfriend hurt. They still talk every day, but the night itself has gone unmentioned.
My 62-Year-Old Coworker Invited Me Away After We Kissed
We kissed at the work Halloween party. Now she wants me to spend the weekend at her house on the shore, and I’m eager, inexperienced, and unsure what to say.
His Thoughtful Birthday Gift Is Complicating Our Casual Arrangement
We agreed to keep things casual. Then he remembered one tiny detail for my birthday, and I had to face how much my feelings had changed.
I Ended Things Over the Coworker She Dated Before Me
She hadn’t cheated on me. But her past relationship with an older coworker changed how I saw our future, even after she quit her job.
She Ended Things After One Date, Then Wanted Me to Fight for It
I thought wishing her well meant accepting her decision. She thought I should have fought for another date.
I’m Leaving My Husband Over Flowers He Never Buys
I’ve told my husband for years that a simple bunch of flowers matters to me. He keeps promising, and I keep waiting.
He Makes Me Feel Seen. Can I Afford a Future With Him?
At 35, I’ve found a man whose warmth draws me in. His financial fresh start makes the future I hoped for harder to picture.
He Tried My Favorite Podcast—and Won Me Over
After three dates, it was his quiet follow-through on my recommendations that made me look forward to the fourth.