If every attempt to meet someone feels like a cold approach or an endless series of swipes, it may help to pay attention to the social life around…
Marriage & Desire
Life together, attraction, everyday friction, and the conversations that keep a relationship interesting.
When Sex Starts Feeling Like a Duty
Wanting more sex and feeling pressured to have sex are different experiences, and a couple can find themselves trapped between them. One person…
When the Marriage Ends, Who Gets the Friends?
After more than thirty years together, I expected divorce to change my home and my routines. I was less prepared for how many friendships would become…
When a Friend Expects More Time Than You Can Give
A friend can be important to you and still ask for more attention than your life can accommodate. The difficulty is often not deciding whether you…
The Apartment Was Small. The Unequal Workload Was Not.
Emma was studying for a medical license in a new country while managing a small apartment and daily family care. Her husband, Ben, had stalled in his…
Feeling Lonely in a Marriage: Name the Connection You Miss
Sharing a home does not always mean feeling accompanied. You can coordinate bills, meals, and errands competently while missing the sense that your…
Being Bisexual in a Relationship With a Man or a Woman
A bisexual person does not become straight when dating someone of a different gender, or gay when dating someone of the same gender. The relationship…
A First Date After a Long Relationship: Keep It Simple
A first date is a meeting, not a demonstration that you have mastered modern romance. For a man returning after a long relationship, the most useful…
The Browsing History Was Not the Whole Story of Our Marriage
After a decade together, our intimate life had become difficult to talk about. Fertility treatment, family responsibilities, and exhaustion had crowded…
At 48, I Wanted a Shared Life. He Could Offer One Evening a Week.
I had a full life in Manhattan: friends, work, places I liked, and enough independence to know I enjoyed it. At forty-eight, I also wanted a partner…