We still have great chemistry once a week. Between dates, the calls have stopped, texts are shorter, and plans arrive at the last minute.
Relationships & Desire
Crushes, mixed signals, dating, and life as a couple. Stories about who we want, what happens when we get together, and how desire changes over time.
I Found a Job 300 Miles Away for a Boyfriend Who Can’t Plan a Visit
I’m preparing to move for my boyfriend. But his uncertain weekends have me wondering what life together would actually look like.
The Second Date I Waited 21 Days for Ended With “I Don’t Know”
Three hours of easy conversation made me want a second date. After a 21-day wait, I couldn’t find the same connection.
My Wife Leaned on My Friend—and My Reaction Surprised Me
I’d noticed my friends looking at my wife. Watching her share a close moment with one of them brought a feeling I couldn’t name.
I Told My Friend I Had a Crush on Him. Then I Hung Up.
After months of ambiguous outings and long calls, I finally told my friend I liked him. My carefully low-pressure approach lasted about ten seconds.
If She Brings a Friend to Our First Date, Am I Buying Three Dinners?
I understand wanting a safety companion. I’m less sure how a first date works with three people at the table—and a possible third dinner on my bill.
He Offered to Stop Watching Football. I Just Wanted a Break
I wanted some time together during weekends of wall-to-wall football. His offer to stop watching altogether left us with a different problem.
My Crush Thought I Only Wanted to Be Friends
I finally admitted I wanted more than friendship. Then my new boyfriend told me why he had kept his own feelings quiet.
How Do I Turn Down a Date Without Inventing a Boyfriend?
I am single, happy on my own, and looking for a polite way to decline dates that does not imply I already have a boyfriend.
I Have a Crush on My Dentist. Is His Smile Just Part of the Job?
I know my dentist is charming with everyone. That hasn’t stopped me searching his smallest expressions for a sign that he finds me attractive.
My Wife Had a Boo Basket Waiting After I Said I Was Struggling
After a difficult Tuesday, I came home to my favorite snacks and a card from my wife. I hadn’t even known a boo basket was a thing.
I’m Ready for a Home Together. He Wants a Sports Car First.
After six years together, I’ve saved for a shared home. My boyfriend rejects renting and wants a sports car before a mortgage. We have a date, but I’m unsure we have a plan.