I’m getting ready to ask a woman out, and somehow the difficult part has become geography.
I’m 21, she’s 23, and we matched on a dating app. We’ve been talking for a little while, enough that a date feels like the next step. The catch is that she lives about an hour and a half away. We’re both in Southern California, so that estimate is subject to whatever the traffic would like to contribute.
I’m near the beach. She’s farther inland, in the hills. These are perfectly reasonable places for two people to live until they want to meet for the first time.
Usually, I find somewhere near the woman I’m asking out. That has been easy enough because my other matches have generally lived within half an hour of me. I haven’t needed much of a transportation policy.
This time, choosing somewhere near her means a drive I don’t normally make, followed by the same drive home. I’m not opposed to doing it. I just don’t drive that far very often, and it feels like a lot for a first meeting.
My preference would be to find somewhere roughly in the middle. We’d each travel part of the distance, meet, and see how we get along. Written down, this sounds completely ordinary. Somehow, imagining myself asking her makes it feel like I’m requesting an unreasonable concession.
I haven’t asked her out yet, so she hasn’t objected to anything. The entire dispute is currently being handled inside my own head, where it has excellent attendance.
I like talking to her and want to meet her. I could make the full drive. I’d rather meet halfway. Is there a normal way to say that without feeling like I’ve already made the first date inconvenient?
